One of the hardest parts of being chronically ill is finding spoonie clothes that are comfortable and don’t cause pain. It took me a long time to get here – I spent way too much time stubbornly wearing clothes that caused more pain than necessary. I’ve written before about the best pants for spoonies, but those pants are more for warmer weather. So now, almost two years into my spoonie journey, and I finally have a “uniform”: standard outfits that don’t exacerbate the pain I’m already in. It took a long time to get here, but now that I am, I can say that it’s worth trading in the uncomfortable pieces in your wardrobe. Now that I’ve found the best spoonie clothes, I wanted to share the knowledge with you!
Before I got sick, I lived and died by the thong. I’m not joking. I actually thought they were comfortable. Oh, how wrong my past self was. I’m kind of ashamed of how many years I preferred this “underwear” type. I put quotes around that word because thongs are more of a torture device than anything else. I bow my head in shame. After trying out many different kinds, I now live and die by the boy short! I am super self conscious about panty lines, but usually I just make sure that they’re lying perfectly flat and my top is long enough to cover that area, and declare it okay. Besides, I would definitely rather have panty lines than something that goes that far up my behind. Any man who wants to judge can wear a thong for a day and let me know how that goes. And any woman who wants to judge obviously doesn’t live in as much pain as I do.
I have now banished my jeans to the back of my closet to make way for leggings. Why wasn’t I wearing leggings all the time before?! I can’t answer that. They are just so comfortable. The problem is, finding nice, affordable leggings that are like Lululemon, but don’t cost an arm and a leg, have a comfortable waistband, don’t pill, and aren’t see-through when you bend over. I know, the list of legging necessities is long, and one could go years before finding a great pair that will fulfill every prerequisite. Enter, Amazon. These Queenie Ke leggings are very similar to Lululemon, but are way more affordable! They are also so comfortable, thick, and come in a wide range of sizes for every body type (aren’t those “one size” leggings the most annoying thing in the world?).
After switching to leggings, I took inventory of my tops. I was wearing bras all the time, and just enduring the pain it caused my shoulders and back. This is definitely NO way to live. Then I realized… I could wear a fitted “undershirt” of sorts to hold everything in, no bra necessary, no “built-in shelf bra” necessary. And let’s be real – I do have things that need to be held in (and they’re size D). Huge relief, literally. Honestly, those “built-in shelf bras” do NOTHING and the elastic band wrapped around your midsection is pure misery. I’ve always thought they were such a ripoff. The shelf is not a BRA. For my tank top needs, I personally prefer these black ones, because they’re slimming and go with everything! I don’t usually wear white shirts either, so I don’t have to deal with messing around with white tanks.
Okay, so now I’m wearing tanks and leggings every day. But what does one wear on top of the tank? I couldn’t/wouldn’t just go out in a tank and leggings. Here is where I discovered the awesome comfort of THE HOODIE. Depending on the sizing you go for, you can either look put together and athletic, or you can go for the full hobo look. I really mean hobo, not boho. Although I’m pretty sure that’s where the term”boho” came from, because really, the boho look isn’t much more than that of a glorified hobo. Anyway, most of the time I lean towards hobo, and hope that maybe it just looks like I’m wearing my boyfriend’s hoodie. Maybe. I probably don’t pull it off as smoothly as one could hope, but I don’t mind looking like a hobo either. I’d rather be comfortable and look like a hobo than be in severe pain and look like a damn barbie doll.
I love this one (even though it’s technically “for men”) because it’s plain, warm, and most of all, probably the cheapest hoodie you can get, so you can get 5 and rotate them each week so that it looks like you put effort in, when really you just grabbed the least dirty one off the floor. It’s also extremely comfortable, as a hoodie should be. Just so much love for this. Keep in mind that since it’s for men, the sizes do run big, which ups your chances of the hobo effect, but if you get the sizing right, it’s great. Besides, you can always order two sizes and return the one that is too big! Oh, the glories of Amazon and free/easy returns. If you are looking for a more put-together look, there are so many other options that are still in the hoodie realm, like this one! You can also go for ponchos, and the comfort level is the same! The hoodie is definitely your oyster.
Ah. The Great Sock Conundrum. I am a bit less opinionated on socks than hoodies, but with my fibromyalgia, I find socks can be touch and go. Any ripples of any kind on the bottom of the socks will likely be very uncomfortable. I’ve definitely kiboshed the idea of an outing (or two) because the socks I was wearing were rippled. Or had designs that I could feel on the inside. Or the elastic at the top was too tight. Fibromyalgia makes me like The Princess and the Pea, people. It’s brutal. But then I discovered that I can wear plain, soft socks, and if I only buy them in black, I won’t have the matching dilemma when I do laundry (which is a whole other beast in itself).
There you have it! The above items are what I consider the best spoonie clothes, and I hope that my experience and knowledge will help you and your body out. If you’ve found anything else that you love to wear on your bad pain days, please comment below! I’d love to find more clothes that I can comfortably wear day-to-day and don’t flare me up.